The compass of friendship: narratives, identities, and dialogues

Preface

Chapter 1. Introduction: Living Friendship

Chapter 2. Making Choices as Communicators: Similarity, Difference, Individuation, and Participation

Perceiving Similarities and Differences

Negotiating Contexts, Making Choices, and Creating Meanings

Constructing Similarities and Differences of Self and Others

Achieving and (Mis)Perceiving Identities Through the Dialectic of Individuation and Participation

Categories and Identity Construction

Modes of the Dialectic of Individuation and Participation

Individuation

Participation

Chapter 3. Communicating Friendship: A Dialogue of Narratives and a Narrative of Dialogues

Storytelling Between Friends

Practicing Dialogue Between Friends

Narratives, Dialogues, and Friendships

Interweaving Narrative and Dialogue in Discourses of Friendship

Conclusion

Chapter 4. Making Meanings With Friends: Two Women's Storytelling and Dialogue

Beginning the Conversation and the Story of Karen and Chris's Friendship

Narrating Diverging Life Paths

Sharing Stories of Divorces and Traveling Together

Side Two of the Tape-Conversing About Pets and Policies

Performing a Dialogue of Narratives About Conjunctive Freedoms

Interweaving Narratives and Dialogue in the Talk of Two Friends

Chapter 5. Talking With College Students About Frontiers and Frustrations of Cross-Sex Friendships

Debating Cross-Sex Friendship

Differences Between Females and Males That Enhance Cross-Sex Friendships

Differences Between Females and Males That Undermine Cross-Sex Friendships

Mutually Defined Boundaries and Common Interests Facilitating Cross-Sex Friendships

Desire and Inevitable Sexual Tensions Overcoming Spoken Definitions of Cross-Sex Friendships

Other Relationships and Social Conditions That Facilitate Cross-Sex Friendships

Other Relationships and Social Conditions That Subvert Cross-Sex Friendships

Addressing Students' Positions on Cross-Sex Friendship

Sexism, Gendered Performances, Sexual Identities, and Cross-Sex Friendships

The Comparative Significance of Friendship and Romantic Love

Conclusion

Chapter 6. Pursuing Cross-Race Friendships in Personal, Sociocultural, and Historical Contexts

Constrained Cross-Race Friendship

Blacks and Whites Engaging in Friendships: Asymmetrical Challenges and Edifying Practices

Recognizing Meaningfully Whole Persons and Contingent Identities

Accomplishing Cross-Race Friendship

Nathan's Story

Felmonia and Tina

Brad and Tyrone

Making Choices, Learning Lessons, and Serving Social Becoming Through Cross-Race Friendships

Chapter 7. Embracing Ethical and Political Potentials of Friendship

Ethical Practices of Friendships

Political Practices of Friendships

Friendships and Social Change

Limitations of Political Friendships

Chapter 8. The Compass of Friendship

References

Index

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