How we love: discover your love style, enhance your marriage

Part 1. What determines how you love. Why every marriage gets stuck

The revealing question you need to answer

Imprints of intimacy from our first lessons in love

Ideal love lessons: the secure connector

Part 2. Styles that impair how we love. The avoider love style

The pleaser love style

The Vacillator love style

The chaotic (controller and victim) love styles

Identifying your love style

Part 3. Duets that damage how we love. The vacillator marries the avoider

The pleaser marries the vacillator

The controller marries the victim

The avoider marries the pleaser

Other challenging combinations

Part 4. Changing how we love. The comfort circle

Seek awareness

Engage

Explore

Resolve

Seeing into your spouse's soul.